“What is the life span of a problem?
Is it short, like a short-term inconvenience? … or, does it have a long life and the problem drags on forever? Problems and challenges are unavoidable, but they must be addressed in a timely fashion.
It’s okay to have a problem, but it’s not okay to have the same problem year after year.
When this occurs, it says that you didn’t take the time to address the problem last year, or you don’t have the capacity to solve it. What you must do when you find yourself with the same problem year after year is take a closer look at what the problem is. Write it down so you can study it, instead of avoiding it by kicking the problem down the road.
Once you see it written down on paper you become the observer of the problem and not the owner of it.
You have a chance to look at it objectively and not take it personally. A problem is not something that happens to you, it’s something you learn from.
How does that problem you wrote down make you feel? Do you feel differently about that problem than you did a year ago? If it’s the same problem and you feel the same way about it, what is it that you now realize about the problem? Is it really not solvable, or is it solvable if you take action in the right direction, or is it even your problem? A problem someone projected onto you, like something they don’t want to address themselves because they want someone else to fix all their problems. Only the ego could be enticed by this.
When the ego takes sole control of the problem – now you have a real problem. A problem, on steroids.
Now, we want you to write down one thing today, right now, to start solving your problem. Write down all the things that contribute to the problem by identifying one or two that you can eliminate easily, and right away. In doing this, two things have happened. One, you took action and got rid of the easiest things first, and two, this small sense of accomplishment will propel you into taking a bigger bite out of the problem, hence, applying more action towards its resolution.
Many people do not even start working on a problem because they see it as daunting, as one big problem, rather than a series of smaller problems hooked together. Once you take this observer approach to any problem, you start to see all the different ways you can start solving the problem.
- Do you have the same problems this year as you did last year? … why is that occurring?
- Have you written down the problem so you can observe it from afar?
- Who is it that can fix your problem? … is it you, or do you require “our” help?
HOW IT WORKS: A problem is only a problem when you make it into one. It’s how the ego justifies itself. The ego loves problems because it likes to fix things. It’s the ego who causes more problems when it’s disconnected from your real self where the solutions reside.
When problems become big problems, that’s just bringing attention to what you have been avoiding for a long time. That when the problem becomes a decision, rather than a problem. The problem is not the problem, it’s about what you have been doing to avoid the problem and why. That’s why the Spirit Guides said, “Write down all the things that contribute to the problem by identifying one or two that you can eliminate easily – right away.” That’s where you start. It’s where you could have started before it ever had a chance to mushroom into a problem in the first place. This is just one more strong point about the importance of being connected. The observer of the problem is ‘you,’ the one who first came here, the owner of the problem is your ‘ego.’ They are both necessary, but they must support each other. Gee, that sounds like the perfect relationship. ~ Linda Deir
A mix of Spirituality and Unexpected Psychology … Linda Deir Transition Coach … guidance from “those” who know you best!