- The takeaway from this episode is … chaos reshuffles the cards of life into a new order – out with the old and in with the new. Trust this process.
- Here’s what this will do for you … be patient with finding your place in this new order.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … accept that the chaos is stressful. Use it to identify the largest source of stress in your life and start eliminating it one by one.
Things work better when there is order.
Order is the arrangement of people and things in relation to each other according to a sequential pattern or method. It’s like going to your favorite coffee shop or restaurant, you stand in one line to order your food and another line to pick it up. It’s an orderly process that works well every day.
Chaos, however, is behavior so unpredictable that it “appears” to be random. In other words, chaos is a complete disorder and confusion that causes stress. If you find yourself in a stressful situation – how do you react? Do you just go with the flow and jump into the river of stress and let it push you downstream? Or, do you take the necessary action to resolve what’s causing you all the distress? Can you even identify it?
It’s a choice. You can choose stress, or you can choose peace. Which one do you want to feel each day when you wake up? Most people fight a stressful situation backward. They’ve been told to do things like meditate or take breathing exercises. Go outside to exercise, take a walk in the woods.
However, people participate in this process backward.
This happens when they tell themselves, “once I can address all of the stressful situations in my life, I’ll have time to devote to myself and feel peaceful.” This is the wrong decision because it’s not a matter of stopping the chaos that’s going on, it’s about how you are reacting to it … causing stress.
Start by identifying what it is that’s causing the stress, then write that down. Next, write down how this stress makes you feel, so you can realize how it’s making your life unpeaceful. Now you can take action or even multiple actions to disarm what is causing the stress. Instead of being filled with worry about your future, use your present moment to picture what an unstressful future will look like. This gets you out of your head, where you are always thinking about a situation adding to the stress.
Sitting in silence and reflecting on your choices is the key! This is where writing will really pay off.
Think about the best way your future will turn out, long-term. Do not allow any of the current stresses to infiltrate that vision. What you see is important, so write down what your long-term vision is showing you.
You can’t pretend the stress is not present. That would be something you did as a child when you pulled the blankets over your head so the monsters couldn’t get you.
In stressful times, when you can be alone, are good times to write, read, or study things online of interest to you that don’t fuel the chaos. As you perfect this process, you will be responding to everything in life from a present moment perspective. This is when reading and learning will be the most effective.
The peace you choose daily comes from gratitude for the good things in your life.
Reflect on how your life has been a joy in many ways and then decide how all this joy and gratitude can be projected into the future vision of your life. A life with minimal stress and chaos. Break up the destructive patterns that your daily routine had. Start by changing the little things that constantly interfere with this future vision of your future.
Each day, choose not to focus on the chaos, shut off the news, and work on making yourself a better person in the present moment. You will have support when being alone from your dedication to living a better life. You will feel the connection to us, so together, we will achieve that vision of a better future.
CALL TO ACTION:
- You must understand the difference between chaos and order, and let it work for you.
- Chaos, no matter what form, is always seeking order.
- How you bring order into your life is easier than you think.
HOW IT WORKS: Everyone is experiencing chaos in their life now, causing stress. Most are still “the silent majority” reacting to the chaos but acting as normal as possible. They are hiding, and anytime you are hiding it is proof that there is stress in your life. No one wants to admit that they are taking action of any kind in response to the chaos of the moment. Who do we think we are kidding? Ask yourself, “why am I pretending like this?” “Who am I hiding from?”
Being alone is very different from isolation. Being alone lets you recalibrate and get yourself in order – in balance. Isolation is hiding out. Watch our webinar about how to prepare for the changes you will be forced to move through and how to make these changes with ease, not stress. ~ Linda Deir