“You’ve heard people say that the more gratitude you have the more things will come into your life to be grateful for.
It sounds simple enough. So why are most people lacking in gratitude? In fact, most people seem to go the opposite way, into feelings of lack.
Most people don’t appreciate what they do have and want more of what they don’t have.
They want new cars, new clothes, better jobs and relationships, more money, and vacations, yet they don’t seem to ever get enough. They may even feel that they would actually be grateful if they had enough, but having enough seems to elude them.
So if it’s true that, if you’re grateful for your life more things will come into it to be grateful for – why aren’t you grateful for what you have right now? Let’s start with less materialism. If you desire less materialism or even have less than most people and you are grateful for what you have you become even more grateful when even a little more shows up. You meet many people who don’t have a lot yet seem to be very happy. They even seem to be more spiritual and conscious. It may even mystify you as to why they could be so happy with less. It’s not the way of the world.
The idea that more will make you happier is what people have been taught. People who have been grateful for what they have also possessed more self-control. They actually enjoy having less, less to worry about, less to pay for, less to clean, less to insure, less to manage and think about. With less, they seem to have a lot more peace of mind. They are a lot happier and more optimistic about life. How can this be?
You are bombarded daily with ads telling you what you need to have to be happy, to fit in, and to be normal. Yet these people, without all these things, are happier, more grateful, and more optimistic about life. What’s wrong with this picture? If you could turn off the distractions of ads telling you what you need to be happy, all the diseases you might have that you need to ask your doctor about because now there’s a new pill for it, or some quick-fix to increase your self-esteem you wouldn’t have to go out and buy things you don’t need with money you don’t have anymore.
What kind of pressure would be taken off your shoulders if you put a stop to all those impulsive distractions? The only thing you’d lack would be self-imposed stress. What you would have is a presence of mind to be kinder to others, more relaxed, more compassionate, and happier. In general, simplifying your life will produce gratitude for what you do have and not be envious of what you don’t have.“
Having gratitude is the key to happiness.
- Look at all the things you have that you don’t ever use and didn’t need in the first place.
- How would your life be different if you didn’t have those things or even desired them?
How It Works: I had a friend who claimed she had a hard life. From my perspective, she was very spoiled. She hardly ever worked, took advantage of men financially, always conned her mother out of money, and did whatever she wanted whenever she wanted. Yet she claimed to have led a hard life. This is what it feels like to a person who does not appreciate what they do have. They feel that if they had more everything would be great.
From my point of view, this type of person really does lead a hard life because they will never be satisfied. They continue to blame everyone and everything for their feelings of lack as they continue to search “out there” somewhere for what they are missing inside themselves. The lesson is that gratitude comes to those who have not been spoiled. It comes to those who have paid their dues and received the most precious gift of all, gratitude. ~ Linda Deir
A mix of Spirituality and Unexpected Psychology … Linda Deir Transition Coach … guidance from “those” who know you best!