“These are the three things that feel like a fate worse than death to most people:
- The loss of dignity.
- The loss of agency.
- The loss of purpose.
- Loss of dignity is when you are no longer able to take care of yourself. You require constant assistance to make it through another day.
- Loss of agency means that you are no longer of sound mind and cannot make your own decisions on critical matters. This means that someone with a power-of-attorney will be making those decisions for you.
- Loss of purpose means you are doing nothing of meaning in your life, that is, nobody will miss you when you are gone.
These thoughts start to come up when you are in your 40s.
As you are seeing your parents or grandparents going through this you start to wonder if this is how your future will turn out. Observing this, you tell yourself you will do anything to avoid it. So how do you intend to do that?
You should be asking yourself a few questions to maintain your dignity. What am I doing daily to maintain the ability to care for myself as I get older? What am I doing to address my poor eating habits, getting enough exercise, and doing something to control my stress? Do I see myself needing care in the future to just get by? When will I start taking responsibility for my wellness or will it take a medical scare before it gets my attention?.
Regarding loss of agency, do you complain about all the responsibilities you have that seem to overwhelm you? You should be very careful regarding your mindset. What you are really doing is asking for all that responsibility to be taken away from you. As the law of attraction answers your request you are setting yourself up for the loss of agency. To turn this mindset around you need to start facing reality, accept responsibility willingly, and feel gratitude for the ability to do so. The alternative is to trust your family members to make decisions for you while having your best interest in mind. Would you even want to burden them with such a monumental responsibility?
And finally, do you have a sense of purpose in your life? If you are in your 40s or 50s do you have a passion for doing something that contributes to the world? If not, you need to start right now. Having a passion will not only bring your gift of purpose to the world, but you will also maintain your dignity and agency.“
There are things people fear more than death.
- The ability to live a dignified life is in your control.
- If by mid-life, you are not taking care of yourself you are setting up those around you to take on that burden.
How It Works: Your fate is in your hands. Refusing to take responsibility for your life is relinquishing your free will. Everyone, after they crossed over, who was a burden in their life, has told my coaching clients this was their only regret. From their now clear perspective, feel what it was like for those who took that burden on. For these departed people, the need to learn responsibility will linger as a lesson for another lifetime. So, while all this personal responsibility may seem impossible, boring, or annoying it’s part of the consequences of being here. Make a plan, pace yourself, and surprise yourself. ~ Linda Deir
A mix of Spirituality and Unexpected Psychology … Linda Deir Transition Coach … guidance from “those” who know you best!