“Did you ever hear someone say something and your response was to say, how can that be true? I find that hard to believe.

The fact that you doubted what you heard, in your attempt to defend your beliefs, has everything to do with deep-rooted belief systems. Along the way you heard something that was easy to believe, making you feel superior or comfortable. You turned what you heard and felt comfortable believing – into a belief. It’s the collection of these beliefs that made up your belief system.

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When you heard someone say something or something you read or heard something on the news, you run them through the filters of your beliefs to be sure it aligns with your existing belief system before you accept it. If it matches your beliefs you say, it must be true because that’s the way my friends, family and I feel about it.

While these beliefs make you feel comfortable because you fit in with how everyone else feels, they don’t make you feel loved.

When someone says something that conflicts with your beliefs, you automatically discount it. Accepting what you just heard as the truth would require that you change one or more of your current beliefs, beliefs you’ve held for decades. That’s what makes what you heard so hard to digest. The most common response you tell yourself is, how can that be true? … or, I don’t believe that. Well, at one point you didn’t believe what has become your belief system either.

As you grew up you adopted the belief systems of your family, friends, teachers, your religion, your political party, and many other influences. The Internet brought even more possibilities to challenge your beliefs, making you even more defensive of those beliefs.

How could it be, that what this other person said to be right? I know it’s not right? How do I know it when I have never experienced it, or even tried it? It’s like a kid who says, I don’t like asparagus, but they never tried it. When questioned, they have the same response, I just know I don’t like it. But they never tried it. They say I don’t have to try it, I know I wouldn’t like it.

This puts the kid so far outside the comfort zone of their beliefs that they automatically think they won’t like it. What is really happening is that the kid didn’t see asparagus in their cartoons or commercials. Asparagus doesn’t look like fun or the kind of food kids eat. It’s in direct conflict with their belief system and lifestyle.

You become so programmed at an early age about what you should and shouldn’t believe that it becomes difficult to ever change your beliefs. 

It takes a shocking moment or revelation to get you to consider changing your beliefs. Another reason it’s hard to change is admitting you’ve been wrong all these years.

People feel shame when they are exposed to new thinking, new thoughts that force them to question their past. The shame that made them realize that they felt superior to others is a big one.

Faced with so many new changes and more coming, you can bet that the changes in your beliefs won’t all be comfortable. They will require that you reexamine your beliefs and form new criteria for what you believe now. It will all start to shift quickly when you see your friends doing things differently. You will catch yourself saying that you feel differently about what you used to believe. That takes a lot of courage, courage that most people cannot summon up, even when you know it’s the right thing to do.”

SUMMARY:

• People refuse to change because they are stuck in old belief systems.
• People convince themselves that their beliefs got them this far, so why change now.
• One day, people will realize that the decisions they made based on their old outdated beliefs, is what got them stuck in the life they have now.

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Seeing through people’s beliefs was a source of constant disappointment for me as a kid. For instance, every time I observed the way my parents acted because of what they believed I felt ashamed of them. They were so sure that what they believed was the right way, the only way, by comparing themselves to everyone else. Instead of helping when they saw a person struggling, they criticized them. It made them feel superior. Their world was a small isolated self-created jail that stifled any chance of them growing as a person. The truth wasn’t only hard for them to believe, it was completely rejected. The times, they are finally changing. ~ Linda Deir

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