Feeling Loved | Linda Deir -author, speaker, transition coach, trainer

“Have you ever experienced doubt when someone said, “I love you?”

The question to ask yourself is, how do I feel when I hear those words? Do they make me feel anxious or uneasy? Do they make me feel content? How about fear of commitment?

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Do you feel imposed upon like there are conditions attached to those words, “I love you” and now there’s caveats and conditions to receive this love? Do you feel like you have to say or do something in return? Are there mutual love obligations involved? What do I have to do to continue hearing those words, “I love you?” If it is true love then you don’t have to do anything. What we are talking about is unconditional love.

The test when you hear those three little words is – you either feel loved the moment you hear it or you have to do something in order to be loved.

If you feel obligated to do something or say something then it’s not unconditional love. Think about who gives you unconditional love all the time, it’s your pets, your dog or cat. They aren’t looking to do anything but love you and make you feel loved. They don’t expect anything in return. It’s not so cut and dried with people. People either love you for who you are, or what you can do for them, but they will never telegraph their intentions ahead of time. It’s sometimes a puzzle to figure it out.

If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, it’s time to take another look at who this really is and if they are being truthful with you?…

  • Did you feel like they meant it when they said, “I love you?”
  • Why did they say it now when in the past they hadn’t mentioned it?
  • What has changed?
  • Do they have an ulterior motive?
  • Would you have to compromise something to be in love with this person and have this relationship?



  • When somebody tells you they love you do you feel loved?
  • Do you feel that there are conditions that come with their love?.
  • If you don’t feel loved when you hear those three little words then move on.

How It Works: Feeling loved motivates you to give the relationship everything you can. It’s a deep feeling of being appreciated for who you are. It’s a superpower that makes you feel like you can accomplish anything – and you can. There is no better feeling than feeling loved. It supercharges you with optimism.

So, how is it that you are able to recognize this feeling? When you feel loved you feel strong yet tender, you feel secure and appreciated – you feel important. These are the qualities you brought with you, before this lifetime and the qualities your Spirit Guides have for you. That’s why it is so easy for them to stick by you no matter what you have or have not done in this lifetime. This faint memory of feeling loved is what you will always long for in this life. ~ Linda Deir