- The takeaway from this week’s episode is … having a goal in mind will dilute the thrill of getting where you are being “guided” to go.
- Here’s what this will do for you … you have help with every outcome you have in mind, so trust the flow because you’re making it harder than it’s supposed to be.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … an important part of this is to take the time to document your journey of progress and setbacks, as this is necessary to perfect this process.
Outcomes cannot be looked at as an amount or a predetermined destination.
Up until now, people have been taught to think of outcomes as goals. You were told you had to set goals and write them down, so they are visible and in front of you all the time.
The problem with setting goals is that they are a destination set with intention by your brain, your head, and your thinking.
Now, we see that when people can’t accomplish their goals, they give up. They don’t devote enough time to the goal, and they doubt themselves. They doubt that they’ll ever have all that money, or that job they want, or that partner they want, so the goal gets forgotten.
The other issue is that when you set a goal it becomes static. Goals are rarely ever hit or accomplished exactly as planned. What happens when you fall short of your goal, or if you overshoot it?
Goals are actually achieved through trusting and following your feelings. How will you feel if you accomplish what you want? These outcomes are felt with the heart and not the head. By picturing how you will feel when you accomplish something, will take the pressure off of hitting a specific number or getting to a certain point. If you continue to set goals as outcomes you will feel one of two feelings: accomplishment or disappointment. If you leave the accomplishment open-ended you won’t be disappointed.
As you work toward this accomplishment you can more easily feel positive about what you’re doing rather than beating yourself up, by thinking you’re not doing enough. Most people take the opposite approach and not only doubt themselves, questioning whether they can accomplish something or not, but listen to their friends and family who tell them things like, “you will never be able to do that,” or, “you’re not smart enough to pull that off,” or, “you are kidding yourself because you don’t have the time to do that, after all, look how busy you already are.” That is how these outside distractions influence your original feelings about accomplishing success in your life, whatever it is.
They distract you with the verbal walls they put around you … making you actually start to believe you aren’t good enough, or smart enough, or have the time to do it in this lifetime.
- Setting goals that are made with your head becomes static in the future.
- You rarely achieve the goal as you originally planned it.
- Setting goals cause the wrong types of feelings and responses.
- When you look to accomplish something and make that commitment with your heart instead of your head, it becomes an exciting process each day.
Don’t wait for someday when the goal is achieved and then you feel good, you must feel good about the process of getting there. It’s like driving to a beach vacation destination and complaining all the way there, rather than thinking about how much you will enjoy it once you arrive. You will drive yourself into much stress if you keep thinking of goals as outcomes and a destination. The process is not painful when you accept that it’s always going on in the present moment, only how great it will feel once it happens.
CALL TO ACTION:
- Outcomes cannot be … amounts or destinations.
- Freedom from an outcome happens when you trust what you feel.
- A decision to accomplish something without the pressure of an outcome opens you to all possibilities.
HOW IT WORKS: You’ve heard the quote, “do what you love and the rest will follow.” When I was 19 years old I got a life-changing message from my Spirit Guides that informed me my marriage would not work out and it was time for me to make my own way.
Although this was sad and took me by surprise I followed “their” guidance and immediately pursued my passion for designing homes and building them. Without any formal education, who was I to think I was worthy of such a grand plan? That’s the point, I didn’t think about it at all, it was my heart’s desire that I was following. The urge was so strong to do this that doubt never entered into the picture. It wasn’t always easy but that never foiled my successes. Following my guidance made everything easier and much more fun.
Speaking from experience, I can tell you that the combination of following your guidance along with trusting those great feelings to give you direction will get you much farther than any goal you had in your mind. ~ Linda Deir