- The takeaway from this episode is … taking things personally will expose the insecurities that allowed this to happen in the first place.
- Here’s what this will do for you … once you have identified what causes you to take things personally, you have done the hardest part.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … now, you can finish what you started as the real you has returned, and taking things personally has become a moot point.
Why do people take so many things personally?
People feel hurt when somebody says something that feels critical to them. They take it personally and at that moment their life comes to a complete stop. Why do you concern yourself with what other people say or think about you? Is it because of your beliefs? What if the beliefs you are defending are wrong?
Some people need to work on their self-esteem and self-confidence, so they are not so susceptible to taking things personally. Another reason people take things personally is that they think everything is directed at them. Suppose the other person was speaking in generalities?
You are not the center of the universe, nor would you want to be. So, lighten up and let that go.
Taking things personally is a sign that you are dependent on the approval of others. Until you heal this you will continue to attract people who are judgmental, critical, aggressive, or could even be a bully. Did you take any of this into consideration before you took it personally and got your feelings hurt? Until this is healed, and you have your confidence back will balance come into your life.
Do you have a double or triple standard when it comes to taking things personally?
What is your relationship with the other person? Is it a close relationship? Or is it a stranger? Maybe it’s somebody at work or even family members. The closer your relationship is to another person the more likely you are to take what they say or think personally. When you get in a group work environment it multiplies because everybody tells you something different. Confusion results in you taking everything personally.
Our best advice is to not jump to conclusions so easily.
You need to step back and look at the bigger picture of the situation. Consider the source of who said it, then take a breath before you react and start the cycle of taking it personally all over again.
CALL TO ACTION:
- Taking things personally exposes your low self-esteem.
- It’s a test. If your ego is healthy, you will not seek validation. You will be open and clear, and not susceptible to taking things personally.
- You must learn not to jump to conclusions so quickly.
HOW IT WORKS: The person or people who criticize you is a test. A test to see if under pressure you are capable of being authentic – able to be your real self. Do you know what you are talking about? Do you walk your talk? Or, are you also critical of others? Their criticizing can only destroy you if you are not seeing things for what they are. This vulnerability exposes you when you are unable to respond with authority. Or, if you are a critic … finally getting a taste of your own medicine. It’s impossible to take things personally when you are present and connected. Even your ego can see through any facade you are hiding behind. No critic could ever rock your boat when you are authentic. This is when a whole new sense of freedom will envelop you, and the doorway to “us” will open. ~ Linda Deir