- The takeaway from this episode is … use any opportunity for “coming out” to be the catalyst for breaking out of your shell.
- Here’s what this will do for you … when you first start coming out you may feel like a fraud, especially when you are around the people who already “assume” they know you.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … start the coming out process around people who don’t know you already. To really digest what is happening it’s critical that you study it as you are moving through it.
People enjoy dressing up for Halloween once a year, so they can become someone else, or something else.
This mask they put on temporarily conceals their shyness and inhibitions. They do things they wouldn’t normally do had people known who they were. Becoming this other person on that one day of the year may actually be who they really are. In this case, it’s the rest of the year that their insecurities will continue to mask who they are.
Most people, in their attempt to get out of their own way, believe that to become a fulfilled, passionate, loving, and giving being means a lot of hardship to change how they act. That’s not the problem at all.
You must change what you believe.
You see, it’s the ego that controls what you believe. Your insecurities are what drives you into believing you need more of many things in order to become this ideal person you had in mind. Your ego tells you that you need more money, a better job, a better spouse, new cars, a bigger house, new phones, and the list is endless, or you won’t be happy. It’s the ego that causes you to live a life of comparison, always comparing yourself to others.
For example, when you meet a new person and find out a little about them you automatically judge them and yourself. You believe that you are better than them, that you make more money than them, that you have a better house than they do. That’s because you are living in separateness.
Or you judge them another way by seeing them as more successful than you, richer than you, living the lifestyle you want to live, which reinforces your feelings of insecurity and lack.
What you fail to consider is that everyone is the same, a child of the universe.
That’s where you all came from when you came into this life. You don’t come in with all this money, a fancy car, or a big house. You come in pretty much on a level playing field with everyone else. Yes, there are people who reincarnate into well-to-do families, but more come into impoverished ones. Either way, both came here to learn and become more than they were before they arrived.
Everyone has the same amount of time to do what they came here to do. If you allow any insecurities to creep in and judge yourself and others, you will interfere with the reason you originally came here. Allowing an insecure ego to run your life will prevent you from ever realizing enlightenment in this lifetime, or what you came here to do or become.
What you need to focus on is looking at everyone as an equal, in the sense that they all have an equal opportunity to become who it is they intended when they came here. Not that everyone will remember, so they can make the right choices, but as you go on your journey toward becoming who you really are, overcoming your insecurities is imperative.
Your life will get better as you strive to be the best at whatever you dedicate your energy and time toward, regardless of what others may say or do.
CALL TO ACTION:
- Don’t let your shyness hold you back. This shyness makes you small causing you to doubt yourself.
- Don’t allow an overblown ego to hold you back either.
- To overcome your insecurities to be a fulfilled, compassionate, loving, giving being you must change your outlook.
HOW IT WORKS: Being concerned about what others will think or say about you is what prevents you from being everything you came here to be. An extreme example of someone who overcame his inhibitions is the life of, talent. By the time he overcame his addiction his career was well established. He was one of the fortunate ones who both kicked the habit and overcame his insecurities.. He was a heroin addict in the first part of his singing career. Before that, he was so shy his career went nowhere. The heroin removed his inhibitions allowing him to project the full expression of his
The lesson here is to identify the insecurities that are masking who you are. Write them in part three of your journal, and then ask your Spirit Guides to show you how to overcome them. You must write them down first. Then listen for the obvious guidance and write that in your journal. You cannot miss by using this system. It’s a system I developed from living it. ~ Linda Deir