The Cost of Hesitating | Linda Deir -author, speaker, transition coach, trainer

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  • The takeaway from this episode is … it’s time to contemplate why you doubt what feels right.
  • Here’s what this will do for you … you will break old habits of looking outside yourself for validation.
  • Here’s what I want you to do with it … any time you catch yourself hesitating don’t waste time talking to others, write it down in your journal. This is where the real help resides.


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You finally made a decision, congratulations!

You made that decision after you thought about it and it felt right. Then, you began asking your friends and family about your decision. What did they think, what would they do differently, or maybe they wouldn’t have made a decision at all? Now that you asked for everybody’s opinion about your decision it’s no longer relevant. In fact, you are now hesitating to take any action on your original decision.

By asking everyone else for their opinion about your decision you have allowed doubt to creep in and interfere with what originally felt so right to you.

All the second-guessing and all the time that you postponed making a decision once you made one are building up to one thing – karma. Although it may not sound like something that would result in karma, what it’s doing to you is causing you to doubt yourself repeatedly when it comes to making decisions.

You need to decide. If you continue doing this throughout your life you will never make a solid well thought out decision, nor learn to do it by relying on our help. The ones you need to ask about what to do – are us. If you have any doubt about which way to go, asking others will only inject more doubt into the situation. Asking us about what to do, and more importantly, realizing why you should do it will always point you in a clear direction.

The cost of hesitation has become a habit of doubting yourself.

Hesitation in starting a project and then, asking someone you find interesting out on a date only to put things off that need to be done right now. This has been going on for so long that it feels normal to procrastinate.

If you look back at all the decisions you finally made that didn’t work out, we want you to examine the amount of hesitation you injected into the process before you began to take action. It’s in studying this pattern that you will find the habit of being non-committal in so many areas of your life like with your family, your kids, and even changing jobs when you should have done it a long time ago.

By allowing the hesitation to postpone your decisions you have wasted a lot of years. When you add it all up, you have missed many golden opportunities by not doing what you could have done when you felt the urge to do it. That was guidance! You became powerless as you struggled to trust yourself. In most cases, you will look back and see that your first decision was the right one. By hesitating and postponing the action, many times you missed the window for that decision to be effective. That’s because guidance has a shelf life.


  • Hesitation is a lot more than just wasted time; it becomes a wasted life.
  • If you are connected to us, why would you second guess or question our guidance? … you wouldn’t.
  • All the hesitation and doubt led to karma … how many more times will you hesitate before you start trusting yourself and us?

HOW IT WORKS: The cost of hesitating is not only causing you to miss your life but it’s a constant cycle of struggle and pain. Life is not supposed to be hard. When you learn to trust yourself and your Spirit Guides, your decisions will become not only easier but obvious. Remember, if your life is hard, you’re going the wrong way. Making a decision isn’t hard to make when you are connected. In fact, this is when life becomes fun. To those who are not connected this will feel risky or even crazy. The most vulnerable feeling you will have in this life is to be disconnected from your Guides.~ Linda Deir




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