“The only way out is through it – what does that really mean?
It has to do with any situation or relationship you find yourself in. Since most things in your life revolve around a relationship of some kind, this phrase lends itself to all of them.
You find yourself in a relationship situation that you are dissatisfied with and want out. It could be your job, friends, family, lifestyle, finances, and anything else you interact with. There are many issues to deal with to get out of a relationship situation. You know you want out but you’re afraid. Afraid of how you will do once you do get out. Afraid that the other person or situation won’t let you out. Afraid that you are not strong enough to follow through once you make the decision to get out.
By the way, there is no way out, only through it.
These fears and doubts lead to procrastination. Procrastination leads to you staying in a miserable situation much longer than you need to. Most people have trouble taking the first step of deciding to walk “through it,” one step at a time. Contemplating the work and time it will take, most people continue to march in place and tread water in the situation as it goes on and on. Allowing the procrastination to continue will only lead to one thing, regrets. Regrets that you didn’t do something about it years ago. Regrets that you didn’t have the courage to take those first steps toward moving through it when you still could. So, you end up compromising, convincing yourself that things were fine the way they were as your enthusiasm dwindled throughout the years.
So, what are you afraid of?
An example of how some people overcome the fears that keep them stuck in an undesirable relationship situation is doing a firewalk. A firewalk will instantly bring your fears and doubts to the surface. To do it you must shift into the right state of mind to prevent burning your feet. Once you’re in that state of mind and decide to take that first step on the hot coals there is nowhere to go but to walk through it, while maintaining the right mindset. That’s the only way you won’t get burned. If you have second thoughts or doubts about what you’re doing while walking across the coals you will indeed burn your feet. It’s in the resolve that you have and the action you take by continuing to place one foot in front of the other that gets you through it. Once you are there you have a totally different mindset about who you are and what you are capable of.”
- When faced with a situation you want out of you must take the first step and keep walking.
- If you have doubts or compromise your situation by staying in it, it will only get worse.
- It’s like walking into a forest and getting lost. If you don’t panic and have the right mindset you will find your way through it and be a more capable person because of it.
How It Works: While you may want to look for a “way out” of a dissatisfying situation, that’s not how it works. There is no way out, no escape hatch where you can run away to escape from something. That’s just one of the challenges you came here to overcome. The first step is the most difficult. It will feel intimidating at first, which is why your first reaction will be to find a way out or a way around it. This uncomfortable situation presented itself precisely when you were the most capable of overcoming it. This whole setup was planned before you got here. This is your test, your shining hour. So, don’t cheat yourself by avoiding it causing you to compromise and live a life of compounding regrets. ~ Linda Deir
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