- The takeaway from this episode is … you will be able to identify when life started to scare you and heal it.
- Here’s what this will do for you … you will have a choice, live your life through experiences or play it safe and remain scared.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … to overcome what scares you write down when you feel scared. You won’t be able to see it when you’re in it, so you must write it down.
What are you afraid of? You must stop letting this life scare you and derail you.
A baby, when it comes into this world, isn’t scared at all. It approaches life with fierce curiosity and wonder. Everything it experiences is new and just the beginning. Then, as the baby starts to become mobile the boundaries of their curiosity expand. With increased mobility, around two years old, comes imposed limitations.
These limitations come from adults whose intentions are good but also believe they know how someone else should live their life.
Along with these limitations, they pass on their fears. You are told, “don’t do that or you will get a spanking,” … “don’t you ever cross that street.” This advice the baby is getting from others is their experience and not the babies. The more these threats repeatedly control you, the more likely you will end up living their lives limited by their fears. So, rather than the baby heeding the warnings, it makes the baby not less curious, but more; “why can’t I cross that street” “why can’t I do that or I’ll get a spanking” “please explain it to me because now I really want to know why I can’t do it?”
If it were natural like it’s supposed to be for the baby, the baby needs to experience the things they are tempted to do in order to discover the consequences on their own – from their own experience. After all, it’s through experience that we become self-realized and equipped for life, not protected from it. This is accomplished by taking the time to show the baby all of this. But the guardian must take the quality time out of their day to think it through and let the baby experience it under your supervision.
Without the support to learn, grow, and discover itself the baby stands a high chance of caving into the pressure of following the rules, or else. With little or no experience to draw from, the baby defaults into living someone else’s life, a life that’s fear-based that follows them throughout the rest of their life. The baby may have come into your world small, but it doesn’t feel small. That baby believes it can do anything, that is … until it’s confronted by those who are already here.
A truly fulfilled life is experienced through curiosity, wonder, and imagination. It’s the imposed learned fears that stop this process and ultimately lead to a compromised life of regret.
As the saying goes, good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from poor judgment. It’s all about the experience, so let that baby, while its exposure to severe consequences is low and under your thoughtful supervision, build its own character through its own hands-on experiences. This is how you can personally play a meaningful role in eradicating this plight of letting life scare you and passing it on.
CALL TO ACTION:
- Don’t let people who are living fear-based lives convince you to do the same.
- Write down where fear is limiting your realm of experiences.
- Hint: If your experiences feel like a risk, then you are restricting your experiences. This happens when you let life scare you by playing it safe.
HOW IT WORKS: You came into this life at this particular time to experience exactly what you are experiencing. In fact, your life is in perfect sync with living your dreams, providing you with the highest opportunities to learn what you came here to learn … and then, get around to doing it. So, don’t let this life make you small by scaring you. This will only cause you to waste time resisting it. Like the baby, you enjoyed your experiences while you were still connected to where you came from before you took on the fear of separation. ~ Linda Deir