“You wouldn’t have a lot of confidence in spending counterfeit money, would you?
You’d feel like a fake if you bought a knockoff counterfeit piece of jewelry or clothing, so why would you want anything to do with counterfeit happiness. With so many fakes and frauds in the world, people are on the lookout for the counterfeits. Therefore, why would anyone think they could get away with counterfeiting their happiness?
Let’s take a look at happiness and pleasure.
It’s okay to desire either one, but one of them has serious negative consequences. Many people confuse the two. There’s a big difference between happiness and pleasure. Most people try to live a pleasure-oriented life, chasing all kinds of things that give them temporary pleasure … counterfeit happiness. True happiness is something that lasts a long time and is not short-lived in the moment. Happiness has a sustaining element to it.
People who are in a happy marriage for 50 years never call it a pleasurable marriage, do they? … although pleasure may be a component. Here are some common examples of temporary pleasures; eating the wrong type of food, unhealthy habits, a ride on a roller coaster, casual sex, and gossiping are just a few temporary pleasures.
How do pleasure and happiness work together?
When you chase pleasure what you are doing to yourself is depleting the dopamine in your brain. The pleasure uses it up. On the other hand, when you are in a happy state you increase serotonin in your brain. The two balance each other out unless you seek the thrill of the dopamine.
If you continue to chase pleasure … you will deplete both the dopamine and the serotonin, leaving you with a new feeling – depression. Depressed that you can’t get happy leads to many self-destructive choices. In an attempt to chase more pleasure, people take pharmaceutical or recreational drugs for their depression, or they drink alcohol to help them forget about their lack of happiness or alleviate the stress in their life.
The key to your long-term well-being and mental health is in deciphering the difference between seeking pleasure or happiness.
What side are you on? Which chemical in your brain is suffering? Take a look at what you’ve done in the past. Where have you been chasing temporary pleasure? Was it worth it? What was the outcome? Was it fleeting in the moment or did it have a residual effect for a few days?
Then look at the things in your past that made you happy; like a new relationship, a new job, doing what you love to do, being in nature, service to others, following a healthy diet, and exercise routine. These all make you happy. You look back at yourself a year ago or five years ago when you followed a new healthy lifestyle, then you look at yourself now in the mirror and it makes you happy. It certainly wasn’t always pleasurable along the way. You sacrificed, you worked hard, you endured sore muscles, but you are happy with the results.
So, when you’re faced with the choice of what to do in your life now, examine if you’re seeking pleasure or happiness? Happiness is a by-product of the life you are leading; pleasure is a pursuit. It’s hard to define how happy you will be doing something until you do it. On the other hand, pursuing and chasing pleasure will always be temporary.“
- Most people have been living a life of instant gratification.
- Counterfeit happiness only fools you.
- Happiness comes when you are true to yourself.
HOW IT WORKS: Many people were leading counterfeit lives, then came 2020. This year has exposed more fakes than any previous year and still has another four months to go. The Guides have been pointing you in a new direction for years and now you are beginning to see what they have seen all along. This is just the beginning.
Pleasure is fleeting, while happiness is constant. When you are low on dopamine it drains the serotonin. When you are living a happy life your serotonin levels are in balance along with the dopamine. However, even when you are living a happy life, instances of overstimulation will cause the dopamine to rage out of control throwing off your serotonin levels and negatively affecting you. It’s a delicate balance between these two chemicals and vital to your long-term well-being and mental health. ~ Linda Deir
A mix of Spirituality and Unexpected Psychology … Linda Deir Transition Coach … guidance from “those” who know you best!