- The takeaway from this episode is … this guidance will only serve you when you stop pretending that people and things are different from what you want them to be.
- Here’s what this will do for you … realize that avoiding disappointment is the first trap that leads to pretending.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … break through the pattern of pretending.
What does it mean to pretend your life away?
Why would people want to do that in the first place? Pretending your life away is ego-based. An example would be when you go out on a first date, you want to make the best impression.
You put your best foot forward, so to speak, and maybe even exaggerate who you are. You certainly don’t talk about any of your flaws on a first date, in fact, what you talk about is the opposite of that because you will most likely make stuff up. The drive to get a second date overrides the truth. Exaggerations and pretending creep in to color your story. This is usually the first place a person notices that they are pretending. If it goes well, you have to keep up the pretense. It turns into a form of complacency, challenged with remembering all the exaggerations you mentioned.
When you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember what you said.
People take this mentality of pretending and exaggerating with them into their careers, after all, everyone else does it. No one ever pretends more than what they write on their resume to secure a job. They exaggerate their education, job experience, and most of the time they exaggerate how much they are making at their current job.
People who exaggerate, or let’s call them what they are, cheaters and liars, use these techniques to get into some of the most prestigious universities in the country. Or as in the news lately, their parents bribe the school, the coaches, and the professors to get their child into these ivy-league schools.
What happens to someone who fakes their way through a college will one day be changing jobs and a diligent employer, performing their due diligence, discovers they don’t have that degree because they never completed the semester.
Just because everybody does it, doesn’t make it right.
People are unconsciously pretending their lives away on a daily basis; in their relationships, their job, and with their friends and family. For example; one of the family members portrays a life that appears to be going really well. Then, suddenly, one day it all falls apart and the families realize they were just pretending to be someone else. All is not fine. Everything was an exaggeration or a lie.
The amount of stress it took to keep the charade going eventually fell in on the person and their lives came tumbling down. You see this happening everywhere in the news every day. People who are in positions of great responsibility and are supposed to be role models for others are arrested and indicted for serious crimes. Their “pretend personas” were destroyed in an instant.
So, the next time you think about exaggerating, or making things up to make yourself look better to others, look in the mirror and see the part of you who is pretending, as you are only hurting yourself.
CALL TO ACTION:
- It’s okay to pretend when you’re a small child as you learn and play. But if you carry this over into your adult life by making stuff up it will catch up to you.
- How do you know when someone is telling you the truth or making it all up?
- Why would anyone want to be someone they’re not?
HOW IT WORKS: We are living in times of disclosure. Things are not getting worse, they are finally coming to light. For those who are conscious… pretending, lying, or exaggerating is not something anyone can pull over on you, or that you can do to yourself because you have a connection to your Spirit Guides and Angels. “They” see through all the pretending, exaggerations, and lies. When you have this connection to them, you see what they see – the truth. No one could get away with lying, exaggerating, or pretending to you because you will see right through it.
Go back to when the behavior of pretending, lying, or exaggeration first started in your life, and write it down in your journal. Once you have written it down, next, write down how this feels, what you now realize, and the action you intend to take to restore yourself back to who it is you really are. ~Linda Deir