- The takeaway from this episode is … you will learn how to rise above the daily stressors.
- Here’s what this will do for you … you will be capable of acting rather than reacting to the stressful world you are in.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … start writing in your journal every day as a personal stress test.
Every day you see or hear about someone else or a group of people lashing out because they are under too much stress.
To most people, rising above the stress seems like a trek up a steep mountain – will you ever reach the top of this summit, and if you do will you find what you are looking for once you get there?
The world is so far out of balance that for many, just knowing where to start is a huge problem.
Thinking this way stops them before they even get started as the problem of habitual negative self-talk takes over once again:
- You feel like you can’t do this because too many things will have to change in your life.
- Worried about being judged by your friends, co-workers, partner, spouse, or family.
- That you don’t have enough money, or energy, or time to get it all done.
- Thinking you don’t have enough time or money no matter how hard you try. Trying is not doing.
Only when you are present can you observe what’s really going on. You will see how people are all the same – stretched beyond their limits and ready to snap or lash out at anyone who gets in their way at the wrong time. They take everything personally. This is why the stress in your world is like a rubber band ready to snap.
When you meet someone who seems to be living an easy life – everything flows for them. If you are caught up in the stress you will either resent them or be angry, which only adds to the stress in the world. You don’t know what to do. Then you may think things like, “oh, I couldn’t do that, there’s not enough time, and I’m under too much pressure.” You see no possibility for improvement while you are under so much stress.
People want to improve their lives but are buried in stress.
Your goal, if you need to set one, should be to do everything you can to relieve the pressures in your life. Only then will you be able to see what is really happening. In order to resist getting drawn into the stress in your world, you must stop, calm down, and document what you are observing. This will free you from the stress just long enough to see beyond it.
CALL TO ACTION:
- First, you must get away from the everyday stress so you can clear your mind and the effect that the stress is having on you.
- Next, find somewhere that you can be completely alone without distractions.
- Then, start a daily 15 minute mental health check by writing about what you are observing in your inner and outer world.
HOW IT WORKS: Instead of seeing happy people when you go anywhere, you see stressed-out angry people. You can feel the tension everywhere you go, the grocery store, the post office, at work, driving anywhere, and especially at school. It’s even in your home as each family member unwittingly brings the residue of everyone else’s stress they encountered that day into the home. This is easy to solve – stop taking everything personally and make deliberate choices in your life to eliminate the stress and pressures. In order to achieve this your life must become simplified.
To start this simplification process start writing in your journal for 15 minutes daily about something you noticed or was unusual or out of the ordinary. Your day-to-day life will gradually improve as you see people and things for who and what they are. After just 30 days of doing this consistently, review what you wrote so you can see what is really going on. You will begin to feel and think better. Read or listen to my true story about how I did this in my book, GUIDED.
The stress in your world is like a rubber band ready to snap, but that doesn’t mean you have to be part of it. ~ Linda Deir