- The takeaway from this week’s episode is … when you like yourself you will treat others better.
- Here’s what this will do for you … you can’t give something you don’t already possess, so what is it you feel the urge to give – if you could? … start from there.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … to get started, reflect on who you have been so far, but keep this to yourself.
People have told you that the secret to a happy life is to just love yourself.
How can you love yourself if you don’t like yourself? There’s a big difference. There are many things you like but don’t love. You had relationships where you thought you loved that person but learned not to like them. Why is it so complicated to figure out the difference?
We would start by telling you to make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Your best qualities, your best talents, the things you like to do. Now, make a list of everything in your life you love. You love your dog, you love your work, you love to go to the movies.
So far, Love “appears” to be an external thing.
Something outside of you that you have strong feelings about. You more than just like it, you love it. People don’t say that they like vacations, or they like their cats. They love vacations and their pets.
Where does the difference play into the like / love equation?
We would say that before you can love something or someone you must like them first. So, telling someone all they have to do is love themselves more – is a prescription for failure.
Start off slow. Get to know yourself first. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish that. Do you have to clean up your act in many ways to get down to the real you? It starts by changing your attitude, and be more grateful. Make an inventory of everything you are grateful for and how much you like it, by describing that in your journal. As you focus on all the things you like, you are getting closer to knowing yourself. You will reach a point where “like” is no longer enough to describe what you like, you now “love” it. You have a new appreciation for what you like/love – and you.
Liking yourself is the journey you take through “the likes” and disappointments (the dislikes). Some you still have and others you forgot about. The “likes” are what will be what you really value that you love. You will unravel all this in the conversations you have with yourself and us.
Whether or not you like or love yourself must be determined by you first. It’s all about how you feel about yourself. That’s the frequency you are emitting at any given moment and what you draw into your life.
CALL TO ACTION:
- You just can’t make a decision to like yourself more you first decide to discover who you are right now.
- There’s a big difference between like and love that the person you think you are will never comprehend.
- Being able to distinguish the difference between the two is the key.
HOW IT WORKS: You will know to what degree you like or love yourself by the way you treat others. Are you short-tempered or are you considerate of others? Are you the one who dominates the conversation, or do you take the time to listen, really listen to what the other person is saying and feeling? These are examples of just a few opportunities in your daily life to see where you are on the like/love scale. That’s because you cannot give something you do not have. To accelerate your progress, take the time to do your journal writing to track your progress. By the way, the bonus will be the bridge that connects you to those who like and love you most. ~ Linda Deir