“People have told you that the secret to a happy life is to just love yourself.
How can you love yourself if you don’t like yourself? There’s a big difference. There are many things you like but don’t love. You had relationships where you thought you loved that person but learned not to like them. Why is it so complicated to figure out the difference?
We would start by telling you to make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Your best qualities, your best talents, the things you like to do. Now, make a list of everything in your life you love. You love your dog, you love your work, you love to go to the movies.
Love “appears” to be an external thing.
Something outside of you that you have strong feelings for. You more than just like it, you love it. People don’t say that they like vacations, or they like their cat. They love vacations and their pets.
Where does the difference play into the like / love equation?
We would say that before you can love something or someone you first have to like them. So, telling someone all they have to do is love themselves more is a prescription for failure.
Start off slow. Get to like yourself again. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish that. Do you have to clean up your act in many ways? Change your attitude, and be more grateful for what you do have? Make an inventory of everything you are grateful for by writing in your journal how much you like it. As you focus on all the things you like, including yourself, you will reach a point where “like” is no longer enough to describe them, you now “love” them. You have a new appreciation for them.
It’s the journey you take through “the likes” in your life. Some you still have and others you forgot about. These “likes” are what will become the few precious things in your world that you love.
Whether or not you like or love yourself must be determined by you first. It’s all about how you feel about yourself. That’s the frequency you are emitting at any given moment and what you draw into your life.”
- You just can’t make a decision to like yourself more.
- There’s a big difference between like and love.
- Being able to distinguish between the two is important.
How It Works: You will know to what degree you like or love yourself by the way you treat others. Are you short-tempered or are you considerate of others? Are you the one who dominates the conversation, or do you take the time to listen, really listen to what the other person is saying and feeling? These are examples of just a few opportunities in your daily life to see where you are on the like/love scale. That’s because you cannot give something you do not have. To accelerate your progress, take the time to do your journal writing to track your progress. ~ Linda Deir
A mix of Spirituality and Unexpected Psychology … Linda Deir Transition Coach … guidance from “those” who know you best!