- The takeaway from this episode is … the moment you feel that the days are going on without you, it’s time to make a course correction.
- Here’s what this will do for you … you will no longer be stuck in a habitual pattern of compromise.
- Here’s what I want you to do with it … I want you to be honest with yourself about how the days are going on without you.
When do you feel that the days just go on without you?
Do you feel like you are not getting to participate in the life you came here to live? Why do you feel like this? How did it get this way? What keeps you stuck in this and how do you intend to change it? These are the questions you must ask yourself in order to make a course correction that pulls you out of yet another day that feels like Groundhog Day. You have fallen into a pattern that has become a destructive habit shutting out all the other experiences that would have made your life meaningful.
It wasn’t always like this. When you were a new person, a baby, your life revolved around us presenting you with new experiences that let your natural curiosity go to work. You lived day-to-day, looking forward to the new things you could explore.
When you became an older child, you stopped listening to us. In fact, people told you we didn’t exist, and now you were thinking they were right. As you got older your experiences that were originally brought about through your natural curiosity disappeared and were replaced by others telling you what to do and how to think. It seemed both awkward and normal.
In the beginning, it felt awkward when someone had to tell you what to do and when, how to act, and what to think. But then, it began to feel normal because everybody else was acting the same way doing and believing the same things. This became obvious to you by the time you entered school.
However, if you continued to live in our world while living in this one you would have certainly been labeled an oddball.
This would describe the strange little kid who seemed to get bored easily and daydreamed a lot. The kid that was ostracized by the other kids and just didn’t get it.
The psychological toll this took forced you to start observing how others acted and thought. Most of you began to conform. You reasoned that you would feel better doing this because now you would be accepted. It was more important to be one of the pack and part of the team that gets included in things rather than excluded.
This was reinforced all the way through your school years leading you to the next time you would be confronted with this pressure to conform – when you graduated from high school and people told you what you needed to do next. They told you that you should go to college and get a good degree so you can get a good job and make a lot of money so you can get married and start a family and buy a house including all the things that come with a “normal life.”
But what if you didn’t want to do that? What if that urge deep inside, that tiny voice is telling you that you were different and still are? Your talents and gifts are relentless about you rediscovering them through reading books, writing, or playing music, or painting, or building things.
Can you recall what you really wanted to do?
People told you that you would never be able to make a living at doing what you loved and were naturally good at doing. Having no role models to support your true calling so you could discover your real self, the fear and doubt crept in and became firmly rooted in your life. You justified this by asking yourself, what if I tried to follow my dreams and failed? What would everyone think besides saying, “we told you so?” What would they say behind my back, to my friends and family? You would once again be singled out as that oddball, the outcast.
This was a setup for an endless cycle of stress and debt in your life. The pressure of that high-paying job tormented you to the point where you didn’t even want to go to work anymore. You started getting passed over for promotions and raises and felt disconnected from everyone. Approaching your bottom, you started to notice how the days kept going on without you because you weren’t present. Yes, you showed up, but you weren’t really there.
Your children are grown and have moved out. Your career – that fabulous job that everyone admired about you has become a prison where you just serve time in exchange for a paycheck. The mortgage and car payments and all the expenses related to a lifestyle you adopted 30 years ago have no meaning for you.
Now, you are alone and have no one to talk to that you can trust to help you figure these things out.
The void you feel deep inside is coming from your soul’s urge reminding you who you are and what you came here to do. This sets you back on a journey of personal exploration; reading books, going to gurus, and attending dozens of seminars. While your excitement level is elevated for a few days, something happens. Monday happens – and you are reminded, once again, that the days are still going on without you.
This will only change when you return to thinking like the new person who first came here. The person who brought all the talents and gifts with you that you would need to accomplish what you came here to do. When you listened to us you knew what that was. You knew what was possible and never doubted yourself.
CALL TO ACTION:
- Have I missed it? Is it too late for me to end this fate?
- What did you do, or not do in your past that got you to where you are right now?
- The only way to correct it is to go back to the beginning because that’s where you left it. “It” is still there.
HOW IT WORKS: What does it mean when “the days go on without you?” It feels like all you do is wait, as you continue to tolerate a mediocre life. You’re serving time, waiting for something better to come along. You are stuck. You don’t feel appreciated, and your life has no real meaning. This could have never happened had you followed the inner guidance that never failed you. That’s what you need to do now. To achieve this, take your focus off the outer world and what others will say or think about you. Don’t waste another day letting the days go on without you. ~ Linda Deir